1. Stop dating people you don't have chemistry with. 

Dating and finding true love have a weird momentum about them. If it's good, it's like running downhill, where you cease to control any or all of your appendages. When you're hesitant, if the person's not right, or the timing's wrong, you're the kid pacing in circles or twiddling his or her thumbs at the top of the hill with a helmet on. You shouldn't have to think so much about why you should or shouldn't date a person. If it works, it's already happening. His or her tongue is most likely closer to you than the average human tongue, and it'll suddenly dawn on you that you have the capacity to love someone who once created a fan page for Sublime or some other lame, burn out jam band from the '90s.

4.4.TW

There are an inordinate number of people in the world you can carry on a nice conversation with who can crack a joke, but that does not mean you want them to be "your person" for an indefinite amount of time.

Don't feel guilty that a smart gentleman from a good family with a real-person job and a mattress with a headboard and everything makes you go "meh." However, don't banish someone because you didn't fall in love after a cocktail. Burning emotional bridges is immature and you're not a character from Game of Thrones.

Twenty-somethings finding true love need to be more comfortable with having "acquaintances" in their social circle. Nothing is awkward about not going on a second date unless you make it awkward.

Go out tonight and flirt it up because your hair looks amazing, and you have a functioning, breathing, true body that won't quit.

2. Life is too short for longing. 

OK, I stole that line from O magazine and it sounded less pathetic in my head, but relationships are built when two people are all in. No matter how beautiful a snowflake you are, if the timing isn't right for either one involved, it "ain't gonna to happen," as Glowzelle would say.

3. Be grateful for all those awful first dates.

Some of them weren't even that awful -- just an overall "meh." They weren't for you, and you won't be it for someone else. Probably for a lot of people. You are still the most beautiful/handsome, cool, funny human of all the humans. It's hard to figure out your type, but it just takes one person to make you realize what your type is.

4. A spark is special. Don't think it comes around often.

Whether that's with a potential love interest or your new best friend -- we are animals, my dear Darwin, and the pheromones are at work. You can't resist your nature! In the case of romance, that sparkly individual will most likely be one of the best kissers you will ever lay your lips on.

5. Prioritize yourself and wake up with the mantra, "You're a badass bitch from hell and ain't nobody going to bring you down."

What small goal can you accomplish today? What can you do before getting in the office that will make you feel like the day is yours rather than feel chained, withering, to a desk? Run for one more minute, sprint a bit faster, try saying "no" to what sabotages you and be your best advocate.

6. You're also a candy precious angel-human hybrid. 

Scoff at the people who call you naïve or give you a condescending smile when you're confidant enough to say that you have a bigger dream than what you are currently doing. The people who scoff in the world are sad, jealous and older than you, feeling worldly because they've made some bad investments along the way. They made mistakes, the worst one being when they gave up on themselves.

Security isn't found in material things but in the knowledge that, at this moment, you are doing everything in your means to chase after what you're meant to do. "Dreams" sound cliché and Lisa Frank-ish, but if you withhold yourself from developing your gifts, you are doing a disservice to the universe.

7. Don't mistake certain inconvenience for romance. 

Yes, every rom-com has characters running through airports, declaring love in torrential weather or bridging some great divide like being a vampire, but finding true love is about going out of your way to express your love. It's getting up when your partner gets up to start the car so it's not an icebox when she drives to work. It's shoveling the snow in the driveway, and if you live in California, it's trying to make someone laugh in traffic because L.A. at rush hour is everyone's personal hell.

 

Love never holds you hostage from being your best self. Stop pining over people who are emotionally unavailable or who are idiots and didn't get the memo that you're a freaking catch-and-a-half. Being separated by geography makes things more challenging, but if a person is already emotionally distant, geography is only the excuse, the pericardial sac that absorbs your quivering, blackened heart. Of course this is easier said than done. When you sense the connection is over, then it's over - and it's only time before the spiral begins. Break-ups begin when a person detaches emotionally.

Make the mistake of contacting him or her through the several channels we are rejected through these days. Vow to never call again, and then call again, hating it, because (finally!) you recognize a pattern of falling in love with people who are unavailable because it protects you from becoming unhusked or kin to a larva whose exoskeleton hasn't developed yet. Through all this, see the value in your pursuit for the questions. It wasn't time wasted. It's where you had to go to turn the corner.

 

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