Find a Job - Find a Date

You should treat dating like a job search. Just as you would put out as many feelers and inquiries as you can for a possible job, do the same for a potenial partner. The more you learn about other 'industries' and what is required on a day-to-day basis working at that company, the more information you will have whether it is a good fit. The same is true of dating. You have to seek out potential partners by searching far and wide and letting everyone know you are looking to find a date. You have to be open to all possibilities at first because you don't know everything about everyone. As you meet people for drinks, dinner, and casual conversation you will get a sense whether it is a right fit for you. Similar to looking for a job, you should not commit to a person until you have done your research to know whether this person is a good fit for you.  If you're asking, 'where can I find love?' The answer is potentially everywhere you look.

Like with a job hunt, you have your first choice and your future employer has his, but any smart employment opportunity is accompanied by due diligence - check references, meet the rest of the work team and have several interview rounds. If your employer starts paying you (living together, investing financially in your life) while you are considering other options, it can become confusing where your loyalties and preferences lie.

You wouldn't commit to more than one job at a time if they were both full time commitments. Similarly, do not start sleeping with a partner or become emotionally involved until you can commit to this person over all of the other potential partners. It is unfair to be committed to more than one partner at a time. Like accepting the job offer of your dreams, you are turning down other companies to take this job. Like with dating, there is a risk in this. When you say yes to one person, you are saying no to all of the others. You could get fired from your job and be out looking again. The same is true of dating. You might date the person of your dreams for two years and then suddenly find yourself back out on the dating scene. It’s a risk you take when you commit, but this risk is necessary to truly be a great employee and a great partner in dating.